2. Is your partner glad that you have other friends?

3. Is your partner happy about your accomplishments and ambitions?

4. Does your partner ask for and respect your opinions?

5. Does she/he really listen to you?

6. Can she/he talk about her/his feelings?

7. Does your partner have a good relationship with her/his family?

8. Does she/he have good friends?

9. Does she/he have interests besides you?

10. Does she/he take responsibility for her/his actions and not blame others for her/his failures?

11. Does your partner respect your right to make decisions that affect your own life?

12. Are you and your partner friends? Best friends?

If you answered most of these questions with a yes, you probably are not in a relationship that is likely to become abusive. If you answered no to some or most of these questions you may be in an abusive relationship.