| At Manhattan Relationship Solutions,
Couples can work on creating a mutually satisfying relationship
with their partner. We offer pre-marital counseling, marriage
counseling, and also help couples who are going through a painful
period of separation or divorce.
According to research (1999) by John
Gottman at the University of Washington, there are several
early signs that show deterioration of an intimate relationship.
Specifically, the signs are as follows:
1. Criticism - instead of merely complaining, the
person attacks and blames their partner's personality and/or
character, such as "you are a selfish uncaring person"
2. Contempt - feedback with the intent to insult
and/or psychologically abuse the partner, such as "you
are more than stupid: a total idiot "
3. Defensiveness - not being willing to listen to
anything your partner has to say to you, out of fear of
them hurting or attacking you; and
4. Stonewalling - ignoring, avoiding and distancing
from your partner
In our couples sessions, we work
on establishing clear communication between partners, thus
helping them resolve their conflicts appropriately. We also
work on intimacy and sexuality issues that impact the couples'
relationship. Additionally we also work on creating a relationship
where problems like financial disagreements, child-rearing
and disciplining problems, issues with in-laws and extended
family, blended family, depression, illness in the family,
fertility problems, work and career related issues, are resolved
so that they don't create disillusionment in a couples' life.
Couples sessions can be undertaken
with both partners either present together or individually
with the therapist.
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